In the world of dating, many of us girls have deal breakers: habits we can’t stand or features we dislike. It is important to have standards when meeting men because settling for less is not something any of us want to do, but one common standard I have never quite understood is the height requirement.
Since when did women start fashioning themselves after roller coasters? Is it really necessary to draw up a mental sign in our minds stating you must be this tall to go on my ride? Men are not giddy children at a carnival; there is no safety law for height in dating, so why are women so fixated on this aspect?
I am a female of average height; around 5’5 and I tend to be attracted to men in the same vicinity, a few inches up or down doesn’t bother me. I have always found it fortunate that I am in to shorter guys since I am absolutely hopeless at walking in high heels; I also just don’t feel comfortable being that high in the air. In fact, taller men are a slight turn off to me, and I don’t want to feel like I have to climb a beanstalk every time I want a kiss. This is a rarity among females I’m aware, but I truly feel that women constantly rule out really great guys for something as insignificant as height. Their fear that such a pairing might be awkward is the most commonly cited reason; my feeling is that it’s only the case if you make it so. If you instead learn to see a person for the characteristics that are actually important, shouldn’t it equate more in the long run? Does our happiness really revolve around something so petty?
I am not saying women shouldn’t have preferences, of course we should, as for me I’m not usually attracted to blonde men, but I would never make it an absolute deal breaker. What I’m saying is, taking all aspects in to account is a more holistic method, rather than writing a guy off because he doesn’t meet one requirement. As revolutionary as Michael Jackson was in saying, “If you want to be my baby it don’t matter if you’re black or white,” I’m saying the same applies for short or tall. So let’s open up those minds ladies, discard set rules just because they are the norm, because there are all kinds of men out there, not all of them are built like basketball players, and that is A-okay in my book!